Submit to One Another
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Posted May 31, 2018
Posted By Lisa Chan

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.  Ephesians 5:21

“Within this Christian vision of marriage, here’s what it means to fall in love. It is to look at another person and get a glimpse of what God is creating, and to say, “I see who God is making you, and it excites me! I want to be part of that. I want to partner with you and God in the journey you are taking to his throne. And when we get there, I will look at your magnificence and say, ‘I always knew you could be like this. I got glimpses of it on earth, but now look at you!” Timothy Keller

Confession time … in my natural state, I don’t like submitting to anyone. The reality of sin is that it deceives me into thinking that the way to life is doing my life my way. It’s why I speed while driving, it’s why I overeat at times, even though my doctor tells me I shouldn’t … I could go on and on.

When it comes to the Kingdom of God, however, dying is the new living! Life is found in dying to ourselves and living for Christ. To train me to die, God has called me to marriage. For a marriage to honor Christ, both partners need to mutually submit to each other. This will never come naturally, and that’s the whole point! God provides the supernatural strength for us to live into His ideal of mutual submission, and grace for when we fall short.

The meaning of the actual word as it is being used for submit is vivid. It is a military term that means “to rank beneath.” That doesn’t mean a husband is abdicating his responsibility of leadership in the home; it simply means that a husband is helping his wife to bear her burdens. It also means that a wife is doing the same for her husband.

How different marriages would be today if a husband and wife both entered into their marriage by asking themselves, How can I meet my spouse’s needs? How can I fulfill my spouse? I believe it would make all the difference in the world. Instead, so many couples start out their marriage with an attitude that says, “I won’t do this, and you need to …” But that is not the way marriage works. We are to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

This weekend our “PCC Marriage Expert” Brian Rhen will be unpacking Paul’s words on marriage for us all. Also, this weekend we will be announcing a fun app customized for PCC to enhance marriages all summer long! But today you get an advance announcement:

Between June 3 – August 31, every 100 Minute Date you submit on the app increases your chances to be chosen as the winner of a NIGHT AT THE RITZ-CARLTON in Half Moon Bay! See details and submit your dates at

We hope you take this opportunity to make the effort to have as many 100 minutes dates as often as you can. Keep dating through August 31 to increase your ONENESS and your chances at winning the night at the Ritz. Every time you submit a date on the site or app,  another ticket with your name on it goes into the grand prize drawing. More dates = more opportunity to win! And consider the following to increase your oneness even more:

  1. Download the 100min Date Challenge App to guide more meaningful, playful, and intentional discussion on your dates.
  2. On a daily basis try having:
    1. 900 seconds (15 minutes) of daily discussion using the app
    2. 90 seconds of prayer together
    3. 9 seconds of meaningful touch (hug, hold hands, kiss, etc.)

For those of us who are in marriages, God wants our marriages to honor Him, to mutually satisfy our spouse, and to be a Gospel proclamation to a watching, hurting world that is increasingly giving up on and devaluing marriage. We want to do all we can as a church to encourage and equip you to have marriages that honor God.

Come this weekend, download the app, and have a bunch of fun dating your spouse this summer.

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